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We Are Molded by Others: My Molders

Every year on my birthday, my grandfather used to tell me that I was older than dirt.

I wrote a story about similar information on Medium a while back you can find it here.

I’ve been spending a lot of my time reminiscing about my childhood recently. In fact, a lot of my posts recently have been about making decisions in life. About how all of our choices in life pave the path of our future. Then that got me thinking of the people who made their imprint upon me. These are just a few of the most impactful people in my life.

My grandmother Cassie:

A brilliant woman strong and prideful. A woman who spent her entire life running after her dream of becoming a nurse, loving only one man for 63 years and raising a brilliant child, my mother. This woman had a heart made of gold and a personality to match. She passed away years ago with her faith to guide her into her new life. There are many times that I sit back and wonder what she would say to me if I could speak to her today. I chuckle, thinking of her calling me Melanie (her daughter’s name).

My mother:

A person who has been through hell and back, and that’s putting it mildly. Through abusive and cheating husbands, drug addiction to sobriety, and finding her faith.

She is the one person who is always reminded me of my worth and my abilities. Well, her and my husband. When I was young, I didn’t have many friends and she did her best to be the best friend that I could ever ask for. She would call the school and tell them I had a doctor’s appointment so that we can go shopping and have lunch. Just the Two of Us. She probably doesn’t know it but those are the best memories I had through High School.

My husband:

The man who saved me. If you ask him, he‘d say it’s the other way around. For anyone wondering, he’s lying. When I met him… I had a heart condition that was going completely insane. I was having blackouts and my health was terrible.

Throughout our first year my health started to get better and has been better since. He is my biggest supporter and the one that gives me the drive and ambition to pursue my dreams. No matter how outrageous they may seem. He may not be the perfect housekeeper, but the man can cook. And he loves me, unconditionally. Of that, I have no doubt. And that my friends, is worth more than all the money and clean laundry in the world.

Dr Robert Lawson:

This was my poetry teacher my freshman year of high school. I’m sure it sounds odd to you that I chose this individual as one who has impacted my life so much. However, he taught me to never sell myself short, to always see the good in people and that I can reach any goal as long as I keep pushing. His words and his encouragement have stuck with me since I was 16 years old. It’s worth mentioning.

My grandfather Virgil:

My grandfather never strayed away from hard day’s work. Even today at 79 years of age the man is still pushing forward, working every day. A man of faith who would give you the shirt off of his back if you needed it. Sure, he has Wrath, he prays for a daily.

But even with that, he’s one of the sweetest individuals I’ve ever known. Even if he’s bothered or frustrated... he’ll do whatever he can for you. I don’t know if he knows he’s admired by others, I know I’ve never told him for fear that he would get a big head. LOL

I’m sure he’d like to hear it; I may tell him someday. If you come to meet him, shoot him a smile, I promise you, you won’t regret it. He’ll smile back… and there’s nothing like Papaw Virgil’s smile.

My dad:

Although I have not lived with him much in my 31 years, I grew up with my mom, he has always been the level head in my life. Dad is always the person on the pedestal, the one who always made the right decisions and the one who knew how to manage money.

He’s the one who always seem to have it all together, even when he didn’t. It was amazing! As I got older, I realized that my father was able to hide many irritations he had from us. He always acted like everything was perfectly fine and for a long time we thought he was rich. He wasn’t of course. But he always made it seem like we could have anything in the world. Here’s one of the driving forces in my life.

What he did when I was young lets me know that I can give my children everything they deserve in this world. I know this because he did it for me.

My children:

When I first became a mother, I had no idea what I was doing. The same could be said for just about all of us. But what I really didn’t understand is how much my children would teach me. You learn as you grow that you are to teach your children and help them become good people, it’s rarely mentioned how much you learn from them yourself.

For instance, from Samuel I learned that being different is a fantastic thing.

From Hunter, I learned that spreading kindness can be done in the smallest of ways.

From Lillian, I am reminded that a heart filled with love can make all the sadness in the world dissipate.

And from Violet, I’m reminded that just because someone is gone doesn’t mean they are forgotten.

These people have molded me into the person I am today. They’ve laughed with me, they’ve cried with me, and they’ve inspired me to be a better person. When I was young, I used to think that I was all on my own. I was naive and mad at the world because I thought everyone needed to love me in order for me to matter.

What’s wonderful, is that today at 31 years of age, I realize that your circle doesn’t need to be large in order for it to mean something. Your circle just has to be filled with meaningful people who make you better.

So, to all those mentioned, even if you don’t read this or you can’t, thank you for all that you’ve done for me.

Who is the most impactful person in your life? How did they make you who you are, and have you told them about it lately? 🧡Shine Bright, Kayla

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