Everyone has dreamed of having magical powers and having the ability to make their relationships last longer and be more loving. I have always been a huge fan of Harry Potter. I feel like, if magic was real and readily available to everyone, there would be more compassion and less depression and sadness. Today, the closes thing to magic is what we learn from our parents and grandparents.
Throughout my life, I have been given some tips and tricks that have allowed me the ability to make that magic.
I am so happy to share them with you:
Give Each Other Space: Relationships are built upon trust and connection. They require understanding, empathy and time. Some of that time, needs to be spent apart. Even though your relationship is important, your friendships and outside family is important too. Give each other the opportunity to enjoy time with the other people that love you.
Never Stop Dating: So many of us fall in line with life and forget that your relationship is still something that requires time and effort. It doesn’t always have to be romance and rose petals. Sit together and play a game, watch your favorite television show together or plan a painting night.
Keep It Entertaining: Marriage doesn’t have to be all strait laced and proper. Contrary to popular belief, married couples can have a good time too. Create fun outings, find a video game you both can enjoy, or start a YouTube channel. Do something that just belongs to the two of you that keeps you smiling.
Relax: Sometimes, we get consumed in the stressors of everyday life that we take out our frustrations on our spouse. We will bring work home with us and snap at the smallest things. Take time to relax and remind yourself that your irritations have nothing to do with who you’re coming home to. Try practicing mindfulness for five minutes before walking in the door or create a routine that allows you to unwind once you get home.
Forgive and Forget: No one is perfect. People are going to make mistakes. After all, they’re only human. There is no need to continuously focus on the bad things that have happened or a fight that broke out. Communicate, compromise and connect. Give apologies when they are warranted and let go of the frustration.
Make Memories: Take in all that your relationships have to offer. Never make light of the special times throughout your courtship. Holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays can be some of the greatest highlights in a relationship timeline. Take pictures and keep special items from your outings. You may even want to start a memory box or a scrap book!
Allow for Disagreements: You’re not always going to see eye to eye. There is not a couple in the world today that is 100% compatible. That’s okay! Let it be. So, what if you like Mexican food and he likes Italian.
(Speaking of experience over here)
Allow yourselves to have difference of opinions. Take it as an opportunity to have dedicated discussions and compromise. You may not always come to a perfect agreement, and that’s okay.
Our relationships do not have a manual. You cannot fix things by buying a new part or rebooting your spouse. We have to work to preserve our connections every day. Take these movements for magic and keep your relationship going strong.
🧡Shine Bright, Kayla