Everyone strives to be perfect. Trying to give some illusion that they never have a messy home and never forget a doctors appointment. Afraid of what an onlooker might say about their parenting if they don't keep up appearances 100% of the time.
That's all well and good, but I'm here to set the record straight.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent.
No one is going to get things right 100% of the time. We are not machines, we are humans. Humans are forgetful creatures. We get caught up in depression, anxiety, frustrations and even pleasantries. We'll plan something with friends, just to cancel the morning of. We will set a doctor's appointment at 8 A.M with the dedication to meet that requirement.... just to call 3 hours after the missed appointment hoping to reschedule and not have to explain that we slept in. We will buy McDonalds happy meals rather than cooking a nutritious meal because we've had a long day.
It's going to happen.
You know what else? It's okay.
It's okay to miss things, it's okay to forget, it's okay to make mistakes. Regardless of what people say, it's not logical to have all your ducks neatly in a row. Even the mother duck misplaces a child every now and again.
If we could all remember that this is normal and should not be frowned upon, the world would be a much better place.
Sure, there are some that keep it together enough, that it looks like they never slip, but they do.
Think about it. When you do something the right way, you're open to telling everyone about how you did so. However, if you miss an appointment or skip a meal prep day - you're not shouting it from the rooftops. Are you?
That's how we create the illusion.
But it doesn't have to be this way. Be transparent with your friends and family about your blunders. I bet you're wondering why I suggest you do this.
Kayla, I don't want to seem weak, or as if I am a bad parent.
Of course, you don't, and I don't expect you to give that impression. Just hear me out.
If you openly advise to the ones, you know that you are not perfect, you will not run into issues when you have a blowback that cannot be hidden. These are people that should love and support you, no matter the circumstances. If they don't, there's no business for you to be connecting with them in the first place.
You're a good parent, even if there are toys in your living room, even if you skip bath night, even if you missed that appointment, even if you let them stay on their tablet for more than two hours....
You are a good parent.
🧡Shine Bright, Kayla