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It’s Not Me, It’s You

Why do people insist on blaming others for their mistakes? Choosing one specific individual to blame for any and all hardships they face? Or many individuals, depending on the problem specifically.

Let me explain why this question was raised.



The other day I was talking with a friend…. Who’s significant other, advised me that they were interacting with another person that they highly expressed to THEIR SPOUSE that they were not speaking to or associating with.

I know.. Sounds bad already.

While talking with my friend, I advised him what that his girlfriend was in fact talking to this person and even suggested I meet him.

At the time, my friend did not seem concerned or upset about the issue. To be honest, the interaction that his girlfriend was having with this third party seemed, to the untrained eye, harmless.

Now… Fast forward 20 minutes and I am receiving text message after text message of what I assume was supposed to be yelling. Telling me I had ruined their relationship; my friend was pissed and that I would end up getting him arrested for hurting the third part.

Full disclosure, He didn’t hurt anyone, he just broke up with her and kicked her out.

She continued, until I blocked her on everything, to wish horrid things upon me and my family. In some morbid attempt to also ruin my life. As she so adequately put it when she described what I had done.


Now, I’m a 31-year-old woman. I’m smart. I finished high school YEARS ago… and I am fully aware that nothing that happened between these two people was my doing. I simply was honest about an encounter I had with my friend's girlfriend that he was inquiring about.


With all of this being said, I’ll come back to the original question.



When someone commits actions, those actions are realized by someone important to them and it ruins their world… Who is to blame?

Is it the eyes of the person who saw it? The mouth of the person who said it? Or the person who actually did it?

We are all responsible for our own actions. We are the keepers of our future. The authors of our lives novel. As I’ve always said,

If you don’t want anyone to know what you’re doing… don’t do it.

🧡 Shine Bright, Kayla

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