Imposter Syndrome: We've All Dealt with It
Imposter syndrome is a feeling that you are not good enough or that you did not earn your accomplishments.
We hear this term in a business or professional setting quite often.
Where we don’t normally hear that term is when you’re talking about parenting. However, I can say that I have fought with imposter syndrome when it comes to parenting much more than I would like to admit.
When someone tells me I’m a good mother and that I’m doing a great job… I can’t help but think in the back of my mind that they’re wrong. I keep replaying the things I could have or should have done better.
At one point, I was wanting to give up and my mother punched me in the leg for even saying those words out loud.
Fast forward 8 years, I have been able to fight through my imposter syndrome and find my confidence in myself.
If you are also struggling with this as a mother or father… I would like to share with you some of the ways I’ve been able to beat it.
Don’t focus on the negative. — Allow yourself to see the positives in your world.
Find an outlet. — Things that will make you happy or allow you to relieve stress.
Look at mistakes and opportunities to learn. — Taking your mistakes and changing your outlook on them into a positive aspect of your life can do wonders for you.
Forgive yourself. — Reminding yourself that you are not perfect can do more for your self-esteem than you would believe.
Lighten up. — Life is too short to take everything too seriously. Let yourself loosen up every once in a while, and enjoy life.
We are harder on ourselves than others are on us. We are always our own worst critic. This is because we know what we are capable of.
Don’t micromanage everything, don’t be so hard on yourself and don’t give up! Your love you unconditionally. They don’t care if you forgot to do the dishes yesterday, they don’t mind if you give them Mcdonal's for dinner (in fact, they probably prefer it) and they don’t want perfection.
They want to laugh with you and get love from you. That is what they will remember.
🧡Shine Bright, Kayla