Do We Turn Out Like Our Parents

Do we always turn out like our parents? I’m going to go with no.

Let me explain, I am very different than my mother and father. My father is really good with finances, always pays everything on time and lives in Florida where he works from home at the same type of job he’s been doing since he was in his twenties.

My mother on the other hand has had a string of odd jobs for the last 10 years and is currently one year into sobriety. Before that for the most part, she was a stay-at-home mom that spent most of her time on a website called Sing snap and at a local Lodge.

I on the other hand, I’m a crazy person with a full-time job, a full-time College student, and a bunch of at home jobs that I’m trying to get financially functioning.

I don’t think I’ve spent more than 30 minutes relaxing in the last 3 months. So much so, that my husband complains about that very thing.

Outside of my household, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a husband complain to his wife about the fact that she will not relax. Isn’t it always the other way around? Where the spouse is calling their significant other lazy?

I don’t go to bars. In fact, I hate them. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with drinking. I do it on occasion, at least when the occasion calls for it and I would like to say I’m financially stable, but nobody’s perfect.

Between myself and my two brothers, I’m the only one that does not own a home and I’m the only one that has not had a job that has lasted over 2 years. Both my brothers have worked at jobs for almost 10 years plus... whereas my longest job was one year and 8 months.

Now I’ve never spent longer than 6 months to a year without work, either due to children being born or covid. Nevertheless, I would consider myself the black sheep when it comes to the three of us.

Back to the original question. Do we all end up like our parents?

Well, I am definitely not my parents. However, I do have similar traits that they possess. Even if it is in minor doses. So, maybe we get bits and pieces from our parents that we form into our own personality traits.

Although I’m not perfect with money, I keep a home and my kids are fed. Although I am nowhere near the career time frame my father is, I’m good at what I do and it shows. I never was one for being a stay-at-home mom but if I had to I think I’d be good at it. After all, I had a really good role model.

What do you think? Did you turn out like your parents? Do you feel that you have similar traits that they do that you just morphed into a certain personality trait that works for you? Or are you a spitting image of them entirely?

🧡Shine Bright, Kayla