Each year, people around the world are creating New Year's Resolutions. Things they want to accomplish for the new year. Some make these resolutions to aid to their health, career, marriage and so on.
I must admit, making a New Year's resolution has not been my top priority as the new year approaches. I've been so busy with everything that I haven't found the time to set them. I set daily, weekly and monthly goals consistently, so I forget that there's a specific time where people who don't normally plan... start a plan.
Since motherhood is the focal point of what I try to talk about on a regular basis, it seemed only fitting that I get some common motherhood resolutions together for those who don't know where to start with their list.
So, what are mothers looking to do better each year? I did some research (online and in my brain), and this is what I found.
Stop Yelling: If you are not a yelling mother, please skip to number two. But if you are a mother that goes through three kind requests for your child to find their shoes before screaming like you've lost your ever-loving mind... this one is for you. We can do our best to lower our yelling by practicing mindfulness, Yoga or meditation. Counting backwards from 10 helps me in small situations. You could always breath into a paper bag to calm down, but it might raise irritating questions that may urge you to yell more.
More Self-Care: If you aren't already practicing at least 15 minutes per day of self-care, now is the time to put that on your resolution list. Giving just a fraction of time to yourself on a daily basis can lower your stress and anxiety levels. This can help you become a more patient and pleasant person. It's hard to pour from and empty cup. Fill yours up every once in a while.
Lower The Tech Time: In this day and age, we are slaves to technology. The average person checks their phone 52 times a day. 52 TIMES! We are constantly focusing on our social media apps, finding information through google (or blogs) and texting or talking to others. This takes a large amount of our time away from the people we reside in the same home with. Take some time in the day to set the electronics down and play a board game, do a craft or read a story with your family. If it works better for you to schedule it... like me. Schedule a section of time per day that works for you to accomplish this.
Say Thank You to your kids: This is something we tend to forget to do. We assume that children are supposed to do what we say, so there's no reason to say thank you each time they do it. However, we get upset when those in our household don't thank us for going to work, doing the laundry or fixing dinner. They don't because they have the same mindset we do. They associate those acts to things we are SUPPOSED to do. Thanking someone for the things they do for you every day can remind them that you appreciate their efforts. This is no different when it comes to our kids. Thank them for rinsing their plates, cleaning their rooms and being polite to their siblings. Watch them beam with pride when you do.
Section Clean: We're not all perfect housekeepers. We all want a spotless home, but we also run into mentality issues, times of stress and have children who run amuck each day. I have set a way for me to get my home cleaned up without getting so overwhelmed that I end up curled up in the fetal position on my couch for the remainder of the evening. What I do is what I call Section Cleaning and it is one of my New Year's resolutions set for 2023. Rather than just standing up and starting to clean a room, I clean sections of the room I am in. For instance, while writing this article... I am sitting at my son's computer desk. It was filthy. So, between writing I have been organizing the drawer desk and shelves. The only thing left to do is wipe it down. It is only a small section of the kitchen, but I was able to get it exactly how I want it to look and later can move to something else. It's amazing how such small accomplishments can make someone feel ten feet taller!
You may wish to place all of these on your list, or maybe just a couple.... or none at all. The great part about New Year's resolutions is that they are specific to the individual. Sit for a while and ponder what you would like to change within your life and write them all down. Then, sift through them all and choose the ones that are within your reach to obtain.
We can do anything we put our minds to. We all are able to create life, if we can do that... we can do anything!
🧡 Shine Bright, Kayla